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A Constant Search for Happiness in the Working World

Do you feel like you’re never satisfied with your job? Like happiness and work just don’t mix.

Maybe it’s a Millennial thing?

A variety of articles out there state – Millennials are having trouble finding happiness in their careers. They blame parents telling us, we can grow up to be anything and do anything our hearts desire. It’s a beautiful thought really. Yet they don’t tell you how hard it is to actually get there. I’m guilty of this notion. Finding a career that sets my heart in flames of passion, is kind of like the age old saying of trying to find a needle in a haystack. I so badly want to enjoy what I do, that I have been switching jobs often.

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The past couple jobs I’ve had, including my current, bring on feelings of anxiety and depression. I go into it expecting something great, to stay there a while, and build my career. I just cannot seem to get past the first step. Yet, in college I held a dream position. Planning concerts for my campus and the community. Not something I can easily come by in real life. Something I’ve been having trouble letting go of.

Constantly switching jobs brings on the depression side of things. I feel guilty for quitting, I think about how I should have just stuck it out and tried harder even though it made me unhappy and anxious. My savings usually starts to dwindle and then I pick up something new. I regain enthusiasm and excitement, until I find some part of the position which makes me very anxious or sometimes taken advantage of (doing work that isn’t a part of my position). This anxiety builds and builds, sweaty palms, churning stomach, difficulty breathing. Until I give in, and look for something new.

Why can’t I be satisfied with where I’m at?

Perhaps I haven’t found the right job for me, one that I can make into a career. Maybe these feelings are really something I should be following instead of trying to stick it out? I think others would disagree, but many in my generation are feeling this way.

I’ve been reflecting on what brings me enjoyment, without stress, anxiety, or depression. When I’m not over examining a situation or observing what others have (I’ve done this with my relationship far too much, and have become happier when I stopped) I am happy. Activities that give me happiness are: writing (like I am now), listening to others stories + career paths and writing about them, time with my boyfriend, yoga, board games (addicted lately), and my cats. Yet, how could these simple hobbies become something I can make a living on?

Props to those who work a job that doesn’t bring them passion, just to make a living. I don’t know how you do that every day. I don’t want to be stuck somewhere unhappy, yet here I am, unhappy.

Amongst the worries of finding where I belong, I’m going to start doing more for myself, away from technology. Self care and love are so important. I drown my thoughts with worries, fears, and anxiety. Instead, I’m going to be creating lists of what makes me happy, goals, and achievements. Yoga will be incorporated into my daily life more, along with reading. Feel free to send any book suggestions my way.

 

I’d love to hear from you.

How have you gotten to where you are today?

What was your dream career/what are you doing now?

What do you do to battle anxiety and/or depression?

Do you participate in self care/love?/How do you relax?

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<3 Espy Girl

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14 Comments

  1. Don Don

    I think this post is working on some false assumptions. I don’t think it’s a requirement to do what you love for a career. Most artists throughout history had “day jobs”. In America, we’ve become enamoured with the myth of celebrity, but I think there’s value in doing something you don’t like. It can even inform your art.

    I also think it’s important that if you “like to write” that you’re putting up more posts than one or two a month. Find an aesthetic or theme for this blog and really push it. Sometimes that uncomfortable tings is actually the feeling of growth as a writer and person. Good luck.

    • Don, thank you for your advice! I am new to blogging and currently more focused on quality than quantity. I also contribute writing to a local magazine. I plan on adding more posts each month however. Thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate your input. 🙂

  2. I have the same feelings like you. I’d never really have a dream career and I still struggle with finding something that really fulfills me.
    Lovely and honest post. <3

    • Thank you for reading! I’m glad you enjoyed the honesty of it. 🙂

  3. I suffer from anxiety and have experienced the same feelings as you have described in previous jobs. The job I’m doing at the moment is ok and I’ll probably end up staying here because at least I know what I’m doing day-to-day. Change triggers my anxiety a lot so i can’t bear the thought of looking elsewhere. Self-care in my personal time really helps.

    Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

    • Aw, thank you for reading them! I am glad we can relate. I suffer from anxiety as well and depression. It’s been hard to stay at a job when I don’t feel happy about it. I’ll be looking more into some self care remedies. 🙂 Thanks for sharing something so personal as anxiety! <3

  4. Finding a job you love makes all of the difference. My husband quit a job he didn’t like. It was awful at first. Then it gave our family a chance to travel the world for something that was really his passion. If you can find something you are passionate about, go for it.

    • Tanya, thanks so much for reading! That sounds like a difficult, but exciting journey! Where did you end up? I’ll be checking out your site as well. <3

  5. This is a good post! I think it is common for people to become complacent and unhappy with what they are doing. Sometimes it could be because they are unhappy in general and it’s not really the work, but most of the time I think they are not doing what they are passionate about. Thanks for sharing!

    • I think it can definitely be a mix of both! Thanks for reading, I really appreciate it! 🙂

  6. Jas Jas

    Great post!! I can so relate to everything you wrote – I think it may be a millenial thing , but on the contrary to that it is also much more easier for us to make a living out our passions these days.
    I honestly think that a lot of the time we’re not happy in our roles at work becuase of a lack of control. Being an employee can leave you feeling like you dont have full control of your time, and how you are spending it so this can cause some resentment.
    Where you mention making a living out of our hobbies – its defo do-able but it is a risk that a lot of us are somewhat scared to take. Being in a standard 9-5 is a lot more secure but often comes at the cost of our happiness. My dream career is to be a content marketing manager… I become anxious when I feel I am not being true to myself and spirit…. I like to journal and write to relax. I wrote a similar article here http://junecrandon.com/blog/i-really-i-born/

    • Jas, thank you so much for your comment. I’m glad you can relate! It’s nice to be able to relate to others. I definitely am afraid of trying to do what I’m passionate about for work, and I’m not quite sure how to make money off of it! A 9-5 is secure, but causes me so much unhappiness. I guess I’m also pretty indecisive. I will be checking out your article as well! <3

  7. Tina Tina

    If I could just tell myself I’d NEVER overthink things again I’d be a happy camper! Helpers for this: mediation (prayer for me), staying active, eating what’s good for my body & mind…. ice cream is only good for the soul lol! Part of me wants to say RUN! Go towards your pursuit of happiness! But, being a little older I can tell you I made it through those two careers that will now serve me well with a retirement and have enriched my life with wealth and knowledge. My new job? I don’t love it. I do like that it’s close enough to ride to, lots of time off, good benefits, I’m not in charge of ANYTHING there so I feel I can take time off and not have to worry about it. So, pros > cons. 🙂 and, yes…. it’s probs a millinial thing haha.
    Hang in there sweetie!

    • Tina! Thanks so much for reading this. Hope you can check out my other articles as well. I feel they are more thought out, well maybe one or two of them 😉 I super duper appreciate you reaching out and walking with me today! Lifted my spirits. 🙂 Still on the hunt for what is right for me. For now, I will see you tomorrow!

      Thank you! <3

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